<h1><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">Surviving Together: An Unforgettable Adventure in Puerto Rico</span></h1><p><br></p><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">There's something truly remarkable about the bond that forms when you survive an emergency situation together. Our recent trip to Puerto Rico turned out to be one of those unforgettable experiences that brought our group of friends even closer.</span></p><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">We set out on a short hike to El Charco Azul in Patillas, a serene swimming hole with a small waterfall. The trail was rugged but manageable, and after about 20 minutes of hiking, we reached our destination. We spent the next 30 minutes enjoying the peaceful surroundings, blissfully unaware of the challenges that lay ahead.</span></p><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">As the first drops of rain began to fall, we took shelter under a covered area, hoping the storm would pass. But it didn’t. Instead, the rain intensified, and after 30 minutes, we knew we had to make our way back to the cars. With four bridges between us and safety, we were anxious about what we might encounter.</span></p><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">We managed to cross the first two bridges, but when we reached the third, our worst fears were realized. The once-passable bridge was now submerged under a raging river, at least 6 feet deep. With no cell signal and no way to call for help, the situation began to feel like the plot of a thriller. Nine of us were stranded, including three kids and myself, navigating the challenge with Multiple Sclerosis.</span></p><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">After four hours of waiting for the water levels to go down, two more people appeared—an incredible dad from Virginia and his 10-year-old son. They quickly became part of our group, and together we devised a plan to cross the river. We knew that crossing as a chain would make us stronger, but it also posed a risk. If the current knocked one of the weaker links—like the kids or myself—over, it could be catastrophic. So, we decided to cross the weakest links one by one.</span></p><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">When it was my turn to cross, I was filled with both fear and hope. Once safely on the other side, I could only watch and hope that the rain would hold off long enough for the others to make it across. Thankfully, we all managed to cross, and just when we thought we couldn’t endure any more stress, the rescue team found us before we had to tackle the fourth bridge. Their arrival brought a much-needed sense of relief after hours of clinging to rocks in the mud.</span></p><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">Words can’t express the gratitude I feel for my friends, our kids, and the strangers who helped us along the way. It was a beautiful reminder of how, even in the most challenging moments, people can come together to support one another.</span></p>

Surviving Together: A Tale of Friendship and Resilience in Puerto Rico

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<h1><strong style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">Traveling as a Single Parent with Multiple Sclerosis: Embracing Adventure and Overcoming Challenges</strong></h1><p><br></p><h2><strong style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">The Challenges of Traveling with Multiple Sclerosis as a Single Parent</strong></h2><p><br></p><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">Living with Multiple Sclerosis (MS) presents unique challenges, especially when you're a single parent. The unpredictability of MS symptoms, such as difficulty walking or talking, can make the idea of travel, particularly to unfamiliar destinations, seem daunting. But this doesn't have to hold you back from exploring the world with your child.</span></p><h3><strong style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">How My Love for Travel Started: A Legacy from My Mother, a Travel Agent</strong></h3><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">My love for travel began early, thanks to my mother, who was a travel agent. Despite my MS diagnosis, the urge to discover new cultures, terrains, and cuisines remains strong. The challenge of venturing far from familiar healthcare facilities is real, but so is the reward of experiencing new adventures with my daughter.</span></p><h3><strong style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">The Power of Support Systems: Friends and Family Make Travel Possible</strong></h3><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">One of the keys to traveling as a single parent with MS is having a reliable support system. I'm fortunate to have friends who are always willing to join us on our trips. This network of support is crucial in ensuring that I can manage my health while still providing my daughter with unforgettable experiences.</span></p><h4><strong style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">Raising an Empathetic and Resilient Child: The Hidden Gift of Parenting with a Disability</strong></h4><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">Traveling with MS has had an unexpected benefit—raising a child who is empathetic, caring, and strong. My daughter has grown up witnessing the challenges that come with my condition, and her compassion and resilience are qualities that inspire me every day.</span></p><h2><strong style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">Don’t Let a Diagnosis Define Your Life: Tips for Traveling with Multiple Sclerosis</strong></h2><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">The key takeaway from my experiences is this: don’t let a diagnosis keep you from doing what you love. Understand your limitations, build a support system, and believe in your strength. Whether it's a familiar destination or an unknown terrain, taking that leap of faith can lead to some of life's most rewarding experiences.</span></p><h3><strong style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">Practical Tips for Traveling with MS: Planning and Preparation Are Key</strong></h3><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">Preparation is essential when traveling with MS. This includes researching healthcare facilities at your destination, packing medications, and planning rest periods. By taking these steps, you can ensure that your travels are safe and enjoyable.</span></p><h2><strong style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">Embracing Life with Multiple Sclerosis: A Journey of Strength and Adventure</strong></h2><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">Living with MS doesn't mean you have to give up on your dreams. With careful planning, a strong support system, and a positive mindset, you can continue to explore the world and create lasting memories with your loved ones. Remember, we may only have one life, but we have the chance to live it fully, every single day.</span></p><p><br></p>

Beyond the Diagnosis: Why I Keep Exploring with My Daughter

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<h2><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">Overcoming Limits: My MS Journey to The Narrows</span></h2><p><span style="color: windowtext; background-color: transparent;">For years, my bucket list remained untouched, filled with experiences I believed were beyond my grasp. Living with multiple sclerosis (MS) for over two decades had cast a shadow over my aspirations, and one dream in particular, trekking The Narrows at Zion National Park, seemed forever out of reach. However, driven by an unwavering desire, I refused to let doubts and concerns hold me back. With the support of a dear friend who recognized my true capabilities, I embarked on a transformative journey that shattered limitations and proved that the body can achieve what the mind can perceive.</span></p><h1><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">The Journey Begins: Conquering The Narrows Despite MS</span></h1><p><span style="color: windowtext; background-color: transparent;">A Journey of Belief: The Narrows, known for its captivating beauty and daunting challenges, beckoned to my adventurous spirit. Yet, my own doubts were not the only obstacles I faced. The voices of loved ones, concerned for my well-being, echoed caution in my ears, urging me to forego such daring adventures. However, a glimmer of hope arrived in the form of a dear friend who believed in me wholeheartedly. Encouraged by their unwavering support and their promise to assist me no matter the extent of my abilities, I embraced the opportunity with both trepidation and excitement.</span></p><h2><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">Friendship and Determination: The Power to Persevere</span></h2><p><span style="color: windowtext; background-color: transparent;"> As I embarked on the trek through The Narrows, the theme of the Beatles' timeless song, "With a Little Help from My Friends," resonated deeply within me. With every step, the unpredictable currents threatened to knock me off balance. Yet, each time I relinquished my friend's hand, the voice of encouragement and unwavering support echoed through my mind, empowering me to persevere. Their presence gave me the strength to believe in myself and my ability to conquer the seemingly insurmountable.</span></p><h2><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">Achieving the Impossible: Triumph Over MS in The Narrows</span></h2><p><span style="color: windowtext; background-color: transparent;">As hours turned into moments and the path unfolded beneath my determined feet, a remarkable transformation occurred. Surprisingly, my pace matched that of seasoned hikers, a testament to the resilience that had long remained hidden within me. Overwhelmed by the breathtaking beauty surrounding us, I reached a pivotal moment in the journey. Filled with a kaleidoscope of emotions, I made the decision to pause and retrace my steps, acknowledging the magnitude of what I had already accomplished. Tears of joy streamed down my face, an expression of gratitude for the opportunity to fulfill a lifelong dream.</span></p><h2><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">Life Lessons from The Narrows: Belief, Support, and Resilience</span></h2><p><span style="color: windowtext; background-color: transparent;">This extraordinary adventure taught me invaluable lessons that will guide me throughout life's challenges. I realized that true belief in oneself, combined with the presence of supportive individuals, can unleash the immense potential within. Selectively sharing my dreams and aspirations with those who nurture and uplift me, I recognized the importance of surrounding myself with individuals who flood my mind with positivity. It became clear that by following my heart and holding fast to unwavering faith, I could transcend limitations and achieve the extraordinary.</span></p><h2><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">Conclusion: Embracing the Power of Belief and Community</span></h2><p><span style="color: windowtext; background-color: transparent;">As I reflect on my transformative journey through The Narrows, I am filled with a renewed sense of purpose and determination. Living with MS may have robbed me of certain opportunities, but it has also fueled a fire within me to defy expectations and surpass perceived limitations. I encourage each and every one of you to embrace the power of belief, surround yourself with those who champion your dreams, and follow your heart unreservedly. For it is through these actions that we can unlock our true potential and accomplish the seemingly impossible.</span></p>

Conquering The Narrows with the Power of Belief 

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<h1><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">Understanding Your ACE Score: The Key to Personal Growth and Empathy</span></h1><h2><strong style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">Why Your ACE Score Matters: Moving Beyond Judgment</strong></h2><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) can significantly impact our lives, shaping how we interact with others and view the world. While sharing your ACE score is valuable, it's important to recognize that disclosing the specific traumas behind the score is not necessary. Instead, the focus should be on understanding the score's significance and how it can foster empathy and personal growth.</span></p><h2><strong style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">The Golden Rule: Privacy and Respect in ACE Disclosure</strong></h2><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">In the early stages of the ACEs campaign, I had the opportunity to sit down with Nelson Hincapie, then-president of Voices for Children, and Madeleine Thakur, president of the Children’s Movement of South Florida. We established a critical guideline: "No one should have to relive their traumas to prove or explain their score to others." This Golden Rule emphasizes the importance of privacy and individual comfort when discussing ACEs.</span></p><h3><strong style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">Empathy Through Understanding: Why Knowing Your ACE Score is Crucial</strong></h3><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">Understanding a person's ACE score can shift our perspective from judgment to empathy. When we realize that someone’s actions may be influenced by past traumas, we are more likely to offer support rather than criticism. This shift in mindset is beautifully illustrated in the movie</span><em style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">Good Will Hunting</em><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">, where the therapist, played by Robin Williams, repeatedly tells the character Will, "It’s not your fault." This powerful moment underscores the importance of acknowledging that trauma is not the fault of the person who experienced it.</span></p><h3><strong style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">The Impact of Trauma on Incarceration: A Call for Rehabilitative Programs</strong></h3><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">During a recent event focused on ACEs, I learned a startling fact: most incarcerated individuals were once traumatized children. This realization highlights the urgent need for rehabilitative and mental health programs within the prison system. Addressing trauma at its root can help break the cycle of generational trauma and lead to meaningful change in our society.</span></p><h3><strong style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">Personal Growth Through ACE Awareness: My Journey of Self-Discovery</strong></h3><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">Over the past year, I have dedicated time to exploring the traumas that have shaped my life. This journey of self-discovery has been challenging but incredibly rewarding. Recognizing my shortcomings was the first step towards transformation, opening the door to endless possibilities. It’s never too late to invest in personal growth and healing from past traumas.</span></p><h3><strong style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">Transforming Trauma Into Strength: The Power of Recognition</strong></h3><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">The process of acknowledging and understanding your ACE score is the key to unlocking personal growth. We all have the ability to transform and grow from our traumas, but it begins with recognizing them. By committing to this process, we can break free from the constraints of our past and build a brighter future.</span></p><p><br></p>

How Understanding Your ACE Score Can Transform Personal Growth and Foster Empathy

<p><img src="https://images.sitesails.com/1/original/4812c984-9ca9-4bf9-a58f-ba6d9cc5abb7-b9f09b76-ea37-44b2-b081-fa44bcfe3c2b.jpg"></p><h3><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">Understanding Repetition Compulsion and ACEs: A Personal Journey</span></h3><h1><strong style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">The Power of Life's Lessons: Repetition Compulsion and ACEs</strong></h1><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">Is life presenting us with opportunities to learn until we finally grasp the lesson, or are we trapped in a cycle of repeating the same issues due to what's known as repetition compulsion? I didn’t even know what this term meant until I delved into the world of Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs). Once I discovered it, I experienced a moment of sudden insight.</span></p><h2><strong style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">What is Repetition Compulsion?</strong></h2><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">According to the American Psychological Association</span><u style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">,</u><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);"> repetition compulsion is the unconscious need to reenact early traumas in an attempt to overcome or master them. These traumas are repeated in new situations that symbolically represent the repressed prototype. This could manifest in addictions, relationship choices, or obsessive-compulsive tendencies. For instance, when a friend continually dates the same type of person who isn’t good for them, it’s likely due to this compulsion.</span></p><h3><strong style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">My Personal Experience with Repetition Compulsion</strong></h3><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">In my case, I had to ask myself why I kept falling into the same cycles. What I discovered was that these patterns were so deeply rooted in my subconscious that even though I knew they weren’t the best for me, I continued them because they felt familiar and oddly comforting. This realization made it clear how detrimental deep-seated traumas can be on a person’s psyche.</span></p><h4><strong style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">The Challenge of Therapeutic Change</strong></h4><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">Repetition compulsion can act as a resistance to therapeutic change. The goal of therapy is not to repeat but to remember the trauma and understand its connection to present behavior—what is often called the "compulsion to repeat." Despite my determination, I wasn’t giving up on the problem, continually trying to solve it without realizing that I was stuck in the same approach. Recognizing that I was the one setting myself up for similar experiences was enough to spark a change in me.</span></p><h2><strong style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">ACEs and Their Impact on My Life</strong></h2><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">As I’ve shared before, my journey with the ACEs campaign began when I realized that my Multiple Sclerosis was largely linked to my ACE score of 7. I’m still in the process of working through my own traumas, and while it can be challenging, the rewards have been far greater. I feel calmer, problems are easier to deal with, and they don’t affect me as they used to—all positive changes that keep me committed to this journey.</span></p><h3><strong style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">My Path to Healing and Understanding the Subconscious</strong></h3><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">At the moment, I’m reading </span><em style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself: How to Lose Your Mind and Create a New Onby Dr. Joe Dispenza</em><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">. However, my journey into the subconscious mind truly began in February 2022. Since then, I’ve read several books on the topic, and I must admit, much of the information I found came to me through social media. By following the right sources, I received a wealth of digestible information.Dr. Nadine Burke Harris’s TED talkwas the catalyst that sparked my campaign.</span></p><h4><strong style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">The Importance of Emotional Healing</strong></h4><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">I’ve come to understand how crucial it is to learn new ways to navigate life because I’m experiencing it firsthand. I’ve endured the consequences of a high ACE score and have realized how emotional healing can benefit both body and mind. The proof is in my own journey—when I started the campaign, I was walking with difficulty and using a cane. Over the past year, as I’ve worked through my traumas, I’ve shed the cane along with my emotional burdens.</span></p><h2><strong style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">Embrace Healing for a Happier, Healthier Life</strong></h2><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">I’m not claiming that exploring your traumas is a cure-all, but for me, the realization that stress was exacerbating my MS was transformative. I was carrying around a ball of stress linked to my traumas, and as I worked through them, my stress levels dropped, and my health improved. Let’s make this a year of healing because we all deserve to feel happier and healthier.</span></p><p><br></p>

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